Becoming a Mom of Two

Becoming a Mom of Two

I always knew I wanted to have two kids.  I never thought they would be five years apart in age but things don’t always workout as we planned.  Even though we didn’t plan it this way, I figured it would ultimately be easier since The Love Nugget would be older and more independent.

Easy, doesn’t really describe the transition we’ve had from one to two kids….

It hasn’t been horrible, but it hasn’t been as easy as I had hoped it would be.  From the moment The Love Nugget laid eyes on his little brother, he’s been stand offish.  To put it nicely.  He hasn’t held him has barely touched him and hasn’t really wanted to be near him.  Or me for that matter.  When he came to the hospital, he wouldn’t sit on the bed with me let alone with me holding the baby.   We had to bribe him just to sit near me to take a picture.

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All About Baby’s World!!!!

All About Baby’s World!!!!

I remember when I was pregnant with The Love Nugget from the moment we found out we were pregnant I dove head first into all things pregnancy and baby related.  I got the weekly updates, read all the baby books, and looked online for everything baby for many, many months.  This time around, things have been different.  Maybe it’s that he’s the second child, maybe it’s that I had a hard time really allowing myself to connect to the baby for so long because of the previous miscarriages.  Up until just a few weeks ago I was still fearful I was going lose the baby.  Even still there are moments when I panic something could go wrong.  However, now that I’m 26 weeks and baby is doing great I’m beginning to feel more confident that in 3 months I’ll have a newborn.  Which has made me more excited about all things baby!

I recently heard about a fun, baby centered event coming up in my area and can’t wait to attend!

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The Mom I want to Be

The Mom I want to Be

Lately the love nugget and I have been battling daily. Numerous fits, time outs, frustration and tiredness pretty much every day. I could blame it on the fact that we’ve been living in a hotel for three months. That he’s giving me a taste of the terrible threes. Or that he just likes to push my buttons. To me placing blame in this situation is a cop out. Instead I’m choosing to hold myself accountable and realize that I haven’t been patient, present or the mom I truly want to be.

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Cherish the Groundhog Days

Cherish the Groundhog Days

I’ll be honest, when I got pregnant with The Love Nugget, I wasn’t 100% sure I wanted to be a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom).  I enjoyed my job and after spending years in college I felt as if I would be wasting away my degree by staying home.  However, I was commuting an hour to and from work and putting a crazy amount of miles on my car each year.  It was draining, stressful, and definitely helped me make my decision to resign.

Those first few weeks at home while I awaited The Love Nuggets arrival (two weeks late), I began second guessing my decision.  I was bored out of my mind and missed my students.  Finally he decided was forced to make an appearance and my world was complete.  Consumed by having a newborn and trying to find balance with our new life I forgot about my job I once loved.

Fast forward a few months to when we were settled into a routine and I started to feel that itch.  As I shopped in Target for diapers and bibs I watched excited students pick out their school supplies getting ready to head back to school.  I missed that excitement and anticipation of beginning a new year.  I missed my colleagues and to a certain extent I missed the commute.   Time alone for an hour (twice in one day) with no one screaming at me?  Hell yeah!

I knew that if I didn’t do something I was going to become depressed which would effect my marriage and more concernedly my son.  So I stepped out of my comfort zone.  I began attending meet-ups, play dates, and joined Stroller Strides.  I introduced myself to moms at the park, the library, and even on grocery shopping trips.  Before I was not much of an outgoing person and to be honest I’m still not a big extrovert but I knew if I didn’t make some mom friends I was going to be in trouble.

Even with new mom friends, weekly baby and me classes, play dates and events, I still found myself bored with the day to day routine of life with a baby.  As a friend most recently put it, “It’s like groundhog day everyday.  Feed, change, play, nap, repeat.”  Yes, it definitely felt like Groundhog Day most days.

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Toddler Tuesday – Technology quiz

The other day I was browsing my Parents magazine and came across a quiz titled, “r u raising a digitally healthy child?”  If you remember back in August I touched on the topic of technology with kids and how it was a struggle with us to find a balance between what we felt like should be allowed and what was recommended.  Ever since my doctor basically told me NO techonology until after 2, I’ve become more of a stickler for the amount of screen time that The Love Nugget is allowed.   Even though he’s past the age of 2, I want him to learn that he doesn’t need the iPhone, TV or video games to have a good time.  We definitely still allow some educational games on our phones, and he LOVES to watch Dora or Thomas from time to time however, it’s not something we turn to daily.  So when I saw this quiz, I thought I would ace it for sure since it seemed like we had a pretty good healthy balance going on.

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