If they ate it, why can’t I?

If they ate it, why can’t I?

I think comparison is something that is almost ingrained in women.  At some point or another I’m sure we’ve all been guilty of comparing our clothes, house, life, etc. to someone else.  We may all try not to but it happens and actually, I’m sure men do it to just not as often.

Since becoming hooked on the blog world I’ve definitely fallen into the food comparison trap from time to time.  It’s an easy thing to do when you read so many blogs that share amazing photos of delicious looking meals and recipes.

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 Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip cookies with Sea Salt from Ambitious Kitchen, Thin Mint Pancakes from Kiss My Broccoli and Cherry Almond Crisp from Iowa Girl Eats

I’ve found myself thinking, “She ate all that in one day and looks amazing!  Surely I can eat that much too…”  or, “They only at three meals? No snacks?  Maybe I should cut out my snacking…”  and sometimes, “Well if they can eat that much nut butter why can’t I?”

Roasted Almond Coconut Butter

One of my favorites, Roasted Almond Coconut Butter!

I’m sure we are all a little guilty of comparing our meals to others whether we like to admit it or not.  However, in the past few year of blogging I’ve learned to think about that wise old saying from my childhood about jumping off bridges while reading other blogs

  • Focus on what works for you rather than on what others are eating.    This has definitely taken me some time as I don’t think I truly knew and understood my body until just recently. I’ve come to understand what works for someone else is not necessarily what works for me.

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Roasted Kabocha Squash that I see lot’s of bloggers eating like it’s going out of style!  I LOVE it but have learned that if I eat too much of it, I start to pack on extra pounds.  So I still eat it, just in moderation :-) 

  • Looks can be deceiving.  A plate full of food can be a completely different size than it looks in a picture.  What might look like a huge portion, may very well be much smaller than it seems.

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I love to enjoy my smoothies thick and creamy out of a bowl as a full meal.  I was surprised the other day when I poured my smoothie bowl into a glass since it was a little runnier than normal, by just how little was actually in the bowl!  It didn’t even fill up one of our smallest water glasses.  

  • We all need a different amount of calories based on our daily activities etc.  If you’re just joining in to my blog for the first time, you might look at my daily eats and think, “Wow, she ate a ton!” or “She hardly ate anything today.”  Some days I might eat more if I’ve had an intense calorie burning workout and some days I might eat less if I’m resting and not getting in any exercise.  However, you wouldn’t know this from reading just one post.

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Breakfast after my morning workout of an egg cooked in two avocado slices on top of a tomato with a Chicken and Waffle sausage patty (strange but good!), a cup off fresh fruit and a Kombucha Mimosa :-) 

  • Many of us have some sort of a story.  While I might compare from time to time, I never judge anyone’s food habits because I know that we all have different reasons for eating the way we do.  Someone might be recovering from an eating disorder, maybe one is trying to gain weight for their health, or maybe your eating habits are different based on your culture.

Apple Pie Scramble

Apple Pie Breakfast Scramble.  A favorite protein packed breakfast when I’m craving something sweet but need to get in my protein!

  • We’re all different ages, shapes, sizes etc.  Guess what folks, I’m 31!  Wait… Just kidding 32!  Sheesh!  You know you’re getting old when you don’t remember your age right!?!  Point is, there are TONS of Healthy Living, fitness, food and drink blogs out there with a large majority being younger age bloggers.  Nothing wrong with this but I’ve learned that my metabolism is much different today than it was when I was 25.  Due to that I might not be able to eat some of, (or as much of) the same things that some of these younger bloggers do. 

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There was a time when I could drink beer all afternoon and well into the evening and feel just fine!  Nowadays after just one beer I usually feel like the Stay Puft Marshmallow man!  While I do still enjoy beer from time to time, I limit my intake to one, maybe two and drink tons of water with it.

  • Finally, no one is perfect. Yes, I love veggies, fruits and healthy foods.  But if you read my blog on a daily basis, you know that I love wine, frozen yogurt, and chocolate.  You might not see me posting that I eat these things all that often but I do!

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Crispy Chocolate Peanut Butter Vegan Fudge.  I can’t even describe how amazing this is and I’m not sure why I only make it during the Holidays!  

I’m linking up with Jenn and Pea’s and Crayons for WIAW where more than a hundred other bloggers are sharing delicious meals and recipes for today!

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QUESTIONS – 

  • Do you ever find yourself falling into the comparison trap?  
  • How do you avoid it? 

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Comments

  1. Love this! I definitely fall into the comparison trap from time to time. I always just try to remember what I know works for me, even if I do change it up every now and then. It’s important to keep your body guessing!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      I agree on keeping your body guessing! Like you said knowing what works for you is so important but adding in some changes every now and then is so healthy!

  2. All great points/reminders here! I used to compare what I was eating to others A LOT. I put way too much thought into it. Now? I don’t even notice because I know what I’m doing and eating is working for me and my body. I’m glad I’ve gotten past the comparison trap because it can be so damaging.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      I so agree with you! It is definitely an extremely damaging thing to get stuck doing and like you I’m so glad I’ve gotten past it!

  3. I defiantly have caught myself in the comparison trap more times than I would like. I love this post and it reminds us we need to do what works for us not everyone else.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      I think it’s easy to do when we spend so much time reading health and fitness blogs with so much good looking food! Remembering we are all so different is so important though :-)

  4. The comparison trap can definitely be stressful! I took a complete break from blogging/reading blogs this summer so I could just have some te to figure things out on my own. It was awesome. Everybody IS different. Great post!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Glad you took a break and figured things out! That is such a smart and healthy thing to do and I think a lot of people ignore the need to do so.

  5. Wow. Absolutely love this post. And confession: this is my first time reading (thank you WIAW link up) but it certainly wont be the last. I totally can relate but it is so important to recognize that we are all different.

  6. Amazing post, Giselle!!! This is such a huge problem in the blogging world. I’m pretty set in my ways, personally, so I don’t feel like I’m too swayed by anything anyone else does. Inspired maybe, and sometimes comforted (“see, she had a beer–there’s nothing wrong with a beer!”), but never pressured.

    But it’s definitely easy to let this stuff get in your head! Thanks for the (perfectly written!!) reminder!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      I like that, “sometimes comforted” I think as healthy living bloggers it’s so important for us to show our indulgences, slip-ups, etc. so that more people are comforted and know that we are all human!

  7. LOVE IT! And it’s so true. It’s easy to fall into the comparison trap, whether it be about what we eat, how much we work out, how popular one blog is versus yours, etc but comparison doesn’t actually get us anywhere. Instead we need to focus on what works for us and where we are in that moment and go from there. It’s really the only way to move forward!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Yes! Focusing on what works for us is so important but also so difficult from time to time. Sticking true to yourself and knowing your body is so key in moving forward :-)

  8. Great post! Yup, I definitely do that sometimes! So, basically when I get caught up in comparing my food to others, I remind myself that what works for someone else doesn’t necessarily also work for me. I like health food and fruits/veggies too, but I also like to indulge every once in a while. I need to look after me and not worry about what other people are doing.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      It’s so easy to do but so unhealthy to spend so much time comparing. I think it’s natural to do so to some extent but it’s when we get stuck in that comparison trap that it becomes dangerous. You are so right on the importance to look after you not worry about what others are doing!

  9. I’m kind of in love with this post. I debate a lot about sharing my daily eats for all these reasons (and struggle reading other blogger eats at times because of the same comparison trap). I want to show people that you don’t have to starve yourself or deprive yourself of foods you love in order to be fit and healthy. On the other hand, I don’t want to make people feel badly because they feel like they can’t eat as much (on days when I eat a lot). Like you said, it varies so much based on activity level, your body, and your goals. Eating to maintain your weight is different than eating to lose weight or gain it. Maybe I should add a disclaimer to my WIAW posts.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Thanks Kim! Glad you liked it! I think you are doing a good thing by showing others you don’t have to starve yourself or deprive your body of foods you enjoy. It’s so hard to know what readers are going through or how they will interpret a post you write as you don’t really know who’s reading. I think a disclaimer or an explanation on WIAW posts is actually a good idea in some cases and might help some people understand more about a persons diet or food choices. I always try to say if I’m cutting back on certain foods for certain reasons or adding in more fats, etc.

  10. I totally understand what you mean and you made excellent points! You are absolutely right that it’s easy to fall into, and of course I’ve thought that over time! It is really just important to figure out what works for you best. I know that a lot of veggies don’t agree with me, so I can’t have too many in one sitting. It takes time, but it’s worth it to know what works the best :)

  11. I laughed out loud at the nut butter thing- pretty sure I gained 5 pounds on almond butter after discovering it on health living blogs. I just don’t work out enough to sustain a jar a week! Now I like to try what other’s are eating, but I don’t rush to join the latest craze every time one sweeps the blogosphere.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Haha! I know right!?! I’m working on cutting out some of my nut butter since I’ve been going overboard lately! It’s just so good!

  12. You made some really great points! I do, sometimes, compare my eats to others. I think that it’s pretty normal, but we just have to stay level headed about it and like you said, realize everyone is different.

  13. I used to compare a LOT! Then I realized the photos could be deceiving on some of the blogs (like your smoothie bowl/glass thing) I wondered how these people were eating so much food all day and then I started paying attention and noticing their dinner plates were really salad plate sized and their bowls were tiny. And instead of a bowl of cereal, etc. it was more of a mug…..that helped me put into perspective why I couldn’t eat that “quantity” of food and be thin like they are. :) One of my favorite things about your blog is that you are REAL! :)

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Thank you Heidi! I used to wonder those same things until I really looked at my plates and bowls and realized others were doing it too! Definitely made me feel better! I’m so glad to hear that you enjoy my blog and I try my best to keep it real :-)

  14. sara @ fitcupcaker says:

    I think we def all do this from time to time. I think, how can she eat all of that, if I did that I would blow up, or is that all shes eating, I feel like a pig now, ha.l.but then I do have to realize that we are all different and we all have different goals. I realized the other day if I want to gain more muscle I need to eat more calories (but good food, not bad) so we are all different!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      yes, the whole eating more calories to gain muscle can be quite tricky. Especially for us women who have been trained to cut calories for so long! I’m still working on it!

  15. Love that you wrote this. I’ve definitely done it before, but I know the way I eat often has people thinking I eat a ton. In truth I eat many meals through the day but several of then are 100 calories or less snacks of fruit or veggies!

  16. I love this post! I have fallen victim to the comparison trap one too many times. I can definitely get a little too caught up in WIAW posts. I don’t do them for fear that someone might think what works for me will work for someone else. I think capturing a single day in someones diet does not tell the whole story. Some days I eat healthier than others and some days I eat more than others. Some days I work out, others I don’t. etc… I try to remember that when I see someone who eats a “perfect” diet that makes me feel badly about my own or someone who eats whatever they want and still looks amazing. A wonderful post and a reminder to us all!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Thank you! I’ve been thinking about taking a little break from WIAW posts as well. My day of eats is never really the same but someone can easily place judgment on just looking at one WIAW post. I almost want to add a little disclaimer before each post. Or just take a break and write about more interesting topics :-)

  17. I loved this post and it really hit home for me. I am terrible at comparing myself to other people, especially other women. I sometimes get paranoid about my WIAW posts, as I want my food to look as healthy as possible, But the truth is I don’t eat clean and healthy 100 per cent of the time, the majority of the time I do, but I do enjoy a bit of chocolate, meal out and the odd glass of wine every now again. We’re all human. We’re all beautiful. We’re all different.

    Some days I eat loads and other days I don’t need as much. I find I need more during the day when I’m at work to keep me going than I may do on a weekend. But like you said, it is finding what works for you. And only you know that.

    I try and enjoy WIAW posts, gain a little inspiration, but try not to compare or judge.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Chocolate and wine is a necessity in my opinion :-) I think we are all human and enjoy splurges or unclean food more than we let into. It’s easy to do when we’re only showing a snapshot of our lives but not necessarily the truth. It would be easy if we didn’t have the comparison gene that most women do, to not feel the need to judge, worry about our meals compared to others. If only we were like men right!?!

  18. These are SUCH great pointers to remember. It’s so easy as a blogger (or even simply a person who reads lots of blogs) to get caught up in the comparison game!

  19. Great post, girl! I used to fall victim to the comparison trap a LOT when I first started reading blogs because I had no idea what worked for me and I was looking for someone to tell/show me. Some of the things I learned were great, but some of the others? Ehhhh not so great. It’s been a long process of trial and error, but I think I’m finally in a place where I’m confident in knowing what works for me, making it easier to avoid the comparison trap. At the end of the day, it’s just important to remember that we’re all different, so different things work for all of us.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Exactly! We are all so different but it can be easy to forget this when we get caught up in others lives through blogging.

  20. Amazing post!! Sometimes I need this reminder. I try to read WIAW blogs to give me some wonderful recipes to try. :) But it is difficult to not compare, thank you for reminding m everyone is different.

  21. I definitely fall into the comparison trap. It’s so hard to not compare myself to others, especially with what they are eating and how fit they are. I love reading lots of blogs and gaining ideas for different recipes, but I’ve been trying hard to not compare myself anymore. We are all unique and different things work for different people, so we can’t beat ourselves up for not eating a certain food or looking a certain way just because someone else does.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      You are so right Melissa! It’s sad and frustrating that I’ve been guilty of beating myself up because of foods I’ve eaten or the way I look. I think many of us are guilty of doing so and realizing it, then taking the steps to not compare is the healthy thing to do. So many more important things in this world!

  22. Giselle, this was by far my favorite post you’ve ever written. You nailed every single thing you wrote to the T. You can tell how much effort and heart you put into each sentence. Thank you for not opening my eyes, but all of your readers as well.

    <3

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Awe, thanks Jessie! I definitely put a lot of thought into it and have enjoyed hearing so much positive feedback!

  23. I so wish we didn’t fall into the comparison trap, but we all do, don’t we?! And you’re so right about the food things…I know what I CAN eat and what I CAN’T eat based on living with my own body for 31 years and while it’s not fair sometimes, that’s just the way it is, and I have to embrace that!! Love this post!

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      Wouldn’t it be easier if women were more like men and didn’t care about comparing etc. You’re so right, sometimes it’s just not fair that we can’t eat what others do. I get frustrated sometimes but that’s life right!?!

  24. Great post! I absolutely agree!! I love looking at what others eat on a daily basis but I also know what works for me may not work for others! :) It is all about finding what works for YOU!

  25. Great post lovely! It’s so true that as hard as we try to not compare, eventually it just seems to happen. It’s hard not to with all the information out there and it’s not very realistic. However, it’s about how we come out of comparing ourselves. Like, hey I may not live in a mansion, but at least I don’t have to clean 20 different rooms 😉 I save time that way, right. I always believe it’s about perspective!

  26. I hear ya on everyone being different & their bodies being different. Great post!! Also, it’s nice to know we’re the same age… although my b-day is coming up soon! :)

  27. I think that almost every single woman who blogs/reads blogs has been through this. It is SO hard to realize that we are not the same. We may have both had the same exact run today, but you can eat 500 more calories than me (or more nut butter! So dangerous! haha) because your body is different than mine. It’s very hard to learn to simply listen to your own body and not try to emmulate others.

    • Giselle Schroer says:

      It truly is hard since we find so many similarities in our workout styles, food passions, etc. that we want to be able to eat the same foods too. Realizing that we can’t all the time can be difficult but necessary!

  28. I am so glad to have stumbled onto your post from a link on the little honey bee – what an awesome right up!
    Thank you!

  29. Great post! and I agree. It’s super easy to fall into the comparison trap. especially with food! What works for you, or I.. may not work for others. I feel as if sometimes it’s a completion and IT”S NOT. all here to love and support each other<3

  30. THANK YOU for posting such an honest, thoughtful post. It couldn’t have been said better. XO

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